Who Are You Swimming With?

How is your environment affecting your life?  What do I mean by that? 

So I have been on a 2 year journey radically altering my weight with yoga, Pilate's, and running and running and running and running. 50 pounds of weightless, I am proud of my accomplishments, right??!! But it was a focused effort, commitment, intentional plan right??!!! YES!!

But what happens to my husband??!! He goes and looses 25 pounds...
Did he join a gym? NO!!
Did he go for a run? NEVER!!
Did he jump on some fad diet? HELL NO!! 
Then how the heck did that little snot do it :) 

His ENVIRONMENT was pulling for WELLNESS.  Just by living in the same house...his life...his health got radically altered.  Woweza!!   It was a NATURAL progression for him...smaller portions, less bread and POOF!! His environment says I love myself and my body and health is the foundation to ALL THINGS.  So he naturally looked at what he was doing for himself and his health.  HE took on a few small daily changes that over time added up to EXTRAORDINARY results.  

Instead of a big heaping bowl of ice cream, have it in a small coffee mug.
Instead of a chocolate bar, have a banana with Hersey syrup drops across the top.
Instead of a bun, have a naked burger.
Instead of soda every day, have one a week. 
Instead of stuffing yourself miserable, save it for lunch tomorrow.

So I ask you...what is YOUR environment pulling for?  Are you bellying up to the bar or heading to the park, playing golf, biking, or walking?  What about your friends...are they pulling for your greatness or cutting you down every chance they get?  Are they patting you on the back saying...its ok you failed....or are they saying "Pull your Big Girl Panties up and go for it AGAIN!!??."  Does your boss lift you up or tear you down?  Are you watching scandalous, affair filled, murderous, brain sucking TV or are you reading a book or blog that will change your life for the good? Are you speaking life and love into your children or disappointment and despair? 

Here is what I know for sure...we were all born with a LIMITLESS amount of power within us.  YOU WERE BORN TO SUCCEED in EVERY ASPECT OF YOUR LIFE!! 

You were born to be happy, healthy, purposeful and wealthy. 

If you are NOT succeeding in every area of your life...TAKE A LOOK AT YOUR ENVIRONMENT. 


Who are you swimming with?  The sharks that are going to eat your life up and spit you out or the Olympic athlete who strives for excellence, full of passion and purpose, showing you the way? What are you surrounding your precious brain and vital body with? 

Take a look at what is working and not working for you and your life?  Make a list.  And for some...it might be really stinking long...mine was...its OK!! And for some maybe its just one thing.  Begin to alter your environment.  HOW?  Find someone doing or having what you want and seek them out. 

I have a friend, she wanted to get in a bikini by summer...what does she do?  She hunts me down!  She altered her environment...then what happens...she goes and finds other friends that are running and says hey lets meet at the park for a group run, right??!! YEAH!!! 

I have another friend, hating her job, depressed, losing her mind...what does she do? Hunts me down! She altered her environment...when that happens...she is vivacious, full of life and energy, rockin her world and taking on new challenges she never thought possible!!!


Your life, health, self will only be as good as you believe it be and as your environment that surrounds you IS.  Seek a leader, friend, mentor, coach that is not afraid to shoot it to you straight. Don't know of one??!!! HUNT ME DOWN!!  YOU WERE BORN FOR GREATNESS! We can begin a conversation to make a real difference in what you are dealing with and what you really care about and in the process, leave you transformed with more power, freedom, full self-expression, and peace of mind.  Come swim with me!

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B the Light!

What Can You Possibly See?

Are you ready for the BIG KAHUNA? Fasten your seat belts for this wicked ride!!  This idea is RADICALLY transformational, can be applied to EVERY area of your life, and is the key to an EXTRAORDINARY-U!!  Thank you Landmark Education!!

Is it possible our whole life is DRIVEN by the VIEW behind OUR CURRENT SET OF GOGGLES?

What do I mean by that?  What is possible or not possible for you comes from the CONTEXT from which you are living.

What's context? The dictionary defines context as the set of circumstances or facts that surround a particular event, situation, etc.

Let me be clear here...you ALREADY have a context for each and every area of your life...whether you know it or not...your body, health, relationships, your job, money, family, friends, anything...everything...

Where do these contexts come from...SHIT HAPPENS... and we as humans make something up about what happened....from that... a context is formed in our mind...we put on a pair of goggles that ALTERS the view of reality...and then we go out and try to live life!!

What shows up?

CONTEXT DECIDES.  There are things you cannot see or hear inside of your context.  And its these things that you cannot see or hear that LIMIT YOU from living an extraordinary life...having it all or maybe anything at all...living and playing full out... 

Want to know the key to access to a new set of goggles??!!

1. Distinguish the context you are already in....identify it...I will give you some examples in a moment.  But when you distinguish the context you are living... in a particular area of your life...it disappears it!! 
2. Practice CREATING a context that GIVES you LIFE

Simple and profound.  But when you get this big idea...when you know it...you will never be the same because you now have ACCESS to transform each and every area of your life that is important to you.  Yes it takes some practice as the old context will try to creep in from time to time...that's why you are plugged in here...a community committed to greatness...we can remind you...to try on a new pair of goggles...and see what you might see...

Let's play with this a bit so you get what I am talking about here...so take a peek into your life...take a look at what is the context from which you are living?

When I did this I saw for myself...I'm not good enough and I have to work hard.  So if I am walking around with the goggles of I'm not good enough and I have to work hard....what shows up?

Let me REALLY wrap your brain around the ideas of possible and not possible here...I want this to be so clear when you take it back to your life....

So when you think of possible or not possible think of yellow and blue...What's possible? Light, dark, green...you tracking with me? yeah...

What's NOT possible? Red right...inside the context of yellow and blue...you will never get (see or hear) red....clear??!!


Ok back to life...So if I am walking around with the goggles of I'm not good enough and I have to work hard...

What's possible (yellow and blue)?  Failure, exhaustion, no satisfaction, undeserving, losing, divorce, obesity, never realizing my greatest potential, never making a difference

What's NOT possible (red)?  Success, accomplishment, love, being loved, wining, ease, joy, making a difference, being valued, self worth, fun, abundance

Can you begin to see it?  So I got my goggles on of I'm not good enough and I have to work hard...and I am beating my self up trying to win the game of life that is NOT even possible from the context that I am living.  Someone says...I love you...I don't hear it.  Someone says awesome job on that project...I don't hear it, feel it, receive it.  Someone says you look amazing...I don't believe it.  Are you beginning to get the big idea here? 

What else happens...I play small. Why? I'm not good enough and I am sick and tired of working HARD.  But is that reality? NO that's the story I made up because of junk in my truck (my past).

What can you begin to see in your own life?  What is the context in which you have been living?  This may feel like a splash in the face for some...its ok...really...its just the human machine!!

And these contexts are a familiar strings that runs through our lives right...like I didn't make this up last week...you get that? I can look down memory lane and see I'm not good enough and I have to work hard all over the place....its ugly...and we get stopped based on a historical conversation.

So what do we do about it?  1.  Distinguish it....go oh...there it is...and the goggles fall off.  And what are you left with?  A BLANK CANVAS FROM WHICH TO DESIGN YOUR LIFE!! 2.  Create new!! Its your life you get to SAY...your actions will be a direct result from the CONTEXT FROM WHICH YOU CREATE....watch...

Let's create a new context....This body is the vehicle for the rest of my life that's going to go out into the world and accomplish what there is to accomplish.  PUT THE GOGGLES ON...


What's possible (yellow and blue)? health, vitality, joy, youth into my 90s, success, action, kicking the pants out of cancer, running your first race, love, sex, intimacy, self satisfaction

What's NOT possible (red)?

So what is beginning to open up for you here? What do you see possible? What context have you been living from?  What context do you want to take on?

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B the Light!

How are the holidays going to BE for you this year?

The answer to that, for many is....well just like last year, I guess...fine, ok, maybe disappointing, upsetting, stressful...sound familiar?  I get that. 

Here is an idea to try on....your holiday can GO how you SAY its going TO GO??!! Crazy right??!!

So you have 2 choices this holiday season.  You can either sit in the stands of your life and watch your holiday come and go OR you can get on the court and play your game (life) full out!! Get it??!!

So I ask you again....How are the holidays going to BE?  What do you want to create?

Let's breakdown what it really means to be "upset."  What are the 3 things that have to be present for someone to get upset?  (learned this in Landmark Education Seminar...AMAZING)

1. A thwarted intention...what does that mean??!? Hey...It's not going my way!!!
2. An unfulfilled expectation.  This is when we see how something SHOULD go and it just doesn’t go that way.
3. Undelivered communication...what's that? We withhold something that needs to be said, or someone withholds from us

What's the result??!!  WE GET UPSET!!!

How do we dismantle UPSET??!!

1. Recognize... hey I'm upset
2. Determine the source of the upset (1,2,or 3 above)
3. Be responsible for the upset...like OH I didn't tell you how I wanted it to go
4. Communicate

So how does this play out in the holiday, right?

Let's take Thanksgiving for me this year as an example.  So every year it was this big ordeal right?!? We would get up, really dreading the day, head out like 10am, drove like an hour out to my mom's where she cooked the huge delicious elaborate meal, get there, stuff our faces, watch the clock, clean up, watch the clock, visit a little bit, watch the clock head out like 3pm...drive another hour to my husbands family feel stuffed and miserable as we sat down to his mother's huge delicious elaborate meal, stuff our faces, watch the clock, clean up, watch the clock, visit a bit, watch the clock, head out like 8pm, go home, crash and be miserably stuffed.

And every year I would GET UPSET see above :) because it really didn't GO the way I intended it to go. Like that's not really what I wanted out of my holiday??!!! (Can you see me stomping my foot??!!)  Where was the joy and fun in THAT? And I would spend the next couple of days upset and regretful. Sound familiar? 

Here's the reality...our families really never knew this upset us...we never told them!!  WOW!! We were just sitting on the stands of our life watching the holiday go by...and we got what we got... that was an unfulfilled holiday and a big belly ache!!

Can you begin to get this?  Does this resonate with anyone out there?

So this year, my husband and I sat down and created what we wanted.  How does that happen?  Well...you just talk about it, throw out ideas.  We were like...what's important? If we could have it all...what would it look like?  

Well....we discovered what was important was that we got to be with family, relax, play games together, have great food, like have the ability to just sit and talk with each other.  We live in the same town but how often do we really just sit, interact and enjoy each other??!! Right??!! 

So I sent out an email to our families, enrolling them in what was important to us...which was to be with them longer & on more easeful terms.  Who wouldn't want that???!!! Hey I love you and want more of you!!

We proposed combining families to our house and dividing up the menu.  Everyone was like yeah! Bring it on!!  And if it doesn't work...we can create something new next time, right??!!

So what happened??!! Each of the mothers were delighted to share in the cooking.  We got the best of the best combined cooked meal... it was succulent.  We got to spend all day together, kids hanging out, taking pictures, playing games, eating 1 fabulous meal.  We got joy & laughter.  We just got to BE.  It was EXTRAORDINARY!!

"UPSET" was avoided by everyone because we created, communicated & delivered on our intentions.

So can you see how your holiday with your family could be COMPLETELY transformed?  YOU have the power to dismantle UPSET...power is in language and communication...

So I ask you again...How are the holidays going to BE for you this year?  Create NOW and COMMUNICATE to your family, friends & loved ones.  Make this holiday EXTRAORDINARY!!

With love & affection you CAN have it all!!

Be courageous!  B the light (Santa is watching)

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